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Masculinity is Bestowed Until a few years ago, Masculine Initiation was not a category that I had spent much time thinking about. I used to see things in terms of transactions. I have skills and abilities. I can see that some men are skilled and comfortable in parts of life that I am not. I am compensated for my productivity and output, and I compensate others to do things for me that… Read More

Morning Glory A few weeks ago, I experienced a ‘moment’ with my son. His response to a challenge he was experiencing created some tension in our family that was affecting everyone and I just needed it to end. This went on for a few days and was incredibly frustrating for me. I was struggling with how to handle it. After a couple of frustrating mornings, I knew I had to change my… Read More

Rainy Days On a recent Saturday, I was standing in the rain watching my third consecutive hour of youth soccer. My six-year-old daughter’s team was playing. She has wild curly hair that only gets curlier in the rain. This is a good thing, because her field was two fields away from the fence where I was watching from. The bouncing curls make it much easier to spot her from a distance. She… Read More

This post was originally published on February 16, 2021. Over the next few weeks, I will be pressing more into the theme of masculinity and initiation with new articles, but this post from almost a year ago fits in well with the topic I think. I hope you enjoy it. Are you talking to me? Moments after the birth of our fourth child, the midwife turned to me as she was filling… Read More

Monsters Inc. It is a confusing time to be a man. The definition of masculinity and what is expected of men seems to be a moving target. Further, Toxic masculinity, is a term we hear everywhere. It implies that there are masculine traits that are inherently bad. This is likely because of terrible actions carried out by men, but for many of us, it is hard to reconcile with who we are… Read More

Lessons in Snowmobiling My mom recently reminded me of the time I went for a ride on my uncle’s snowmobile.  My aunt and uncle live in Northern British Columbia and we visited one Christmas when I was a teenager. While I was out riding on the frozen lake, I got disoriented. There was low cloud and the visibility was limited. I was lost. It took me some time to find my way… Read More

Resisting the temptation to jump straight into my 2022 planning post, I am republishing a post that is really just good advice that I need to take this week: Slow Down. I am spending this week with family, disconnecting, and trying to not to jump straight out of Christmas and into the next thing. This post was originally published in June of 2021. I hope you enjoy! Motorcycle Lessons In a recent… Read More

D-Day On June 6, 1944, Allied Forces landed on the beaches of Normandy, France. After months of planning and strategic activity designed to mislead the German command, soldiers from around the world began a siege with the goal of liberating France and Western Europe from Nazi control. Under the light of a full moon, thousands of troops, primarily from the United Kingdom, the United States, and Canada, crossed the English Channel, hoping… Read More

Christmas in October Though it continues to fall on December 25th, each year Christmas seems to arrive a little earlier. I can remember a time when my family used to wait until December 1st before we would decorate our house in preparation for Christmas. This year I went to the store the week before Halloween to find some ghost decorations only to find the shelves stocked with Christmas lights and blow-up Santas… Read More

First Principles It is hard to believe a year has passed since I first pressed publish on The Cedar Life. When considering my ‘Why’ for starting the blog, I posed a theory. Over the last few years, I have discovered that there is more to life than what I had experienced before that point. The theory I put forward was that there are many of us looking for more. My hope was… Read More