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Rainy Days On a recent Saturday, I was standing in the rain watching my third consecutive hour of youth soccer. My six-year-old daughter’s team was playing. She has wild curly hair that only gets curlier in the rain. This is a good thing, because her field was two fields away from the fence where I was watching from. The bouncing curls make it much easier to spot her from a distance. She… Read More

This post was originally published on February 16, 2021. Over the next few weeks, I will be pressing more into the theme of masculinity and initiation with new articles, but this post from almost a year ago fits in well with the topic I think. I hope you enjoy it. Are you talking to me? Moments after the birth of our fourth child, the midwife turned to me as she was filling… Read More

Monsters Inc. It is a confusing time to be a man. The definition of masculinity and what is expected of men seems to be a moving target. Further, Toxic masculinity, is a term we hear everywhere. It implies that there are masculine traits that are inherently bad. This is likely because of terrible actions carried out by men, but for many of us, it is hard to reconcile with who we are… Read More

First Principles It is hard to believe a year has passed since I first pressed publish on The Cedar Life. When considering my ‘Why’ for starting the blog, I posed a theory. Over the last few years, I have discovered that there is more to life than what I had experienced before that point. The theory I put forward was that there are many of us looking for more. My hope was… Read More

Artistic License Working in a public accounting firm, the opportunities to be expressive are somewhat limited. Dress codes have loosened in recent years. When I started out, most men wore a business suit, tie-optional, with some variation of a blue check shirt. Work processes were standardized throughout the organization. We all used the same computers and software. The one place my coworkers and I had some freedom to express ourselves was the… Read More

Math Lessons In a recent episode of the Order of Man podcast, host Ryan Michler interviewed Chris Williamson, host of another show I frequent, Modern Wisdom. The men covered a variety of topics and subjects, but towards the end of the show, Chris articulated an idea that I had not heard before: Never multiply by zero. As a professional numbers guy, I am always excited to hear great advice that ties in… Read More

Sunday Practices One of the weekly pillars in the life of my family is going to church. Spending an hour together in community, in worship, and encounter is something that I am grateful for. Especially after the last 18 months, when we could not go at times due to the pandemic. I have come to love the opportunity to attend mass on a regular basis. I look forward to sharing this love… Read More

Lyrical Reminders Sometimes a song I have not heard in a while will come on and capture my attention.  It might remind me of the place I first heard it or the lyrics trigger a particular memory.  This happened recently.  A song called ‘Whispers’ by the artist, Passenger, popped up on a playlist.  For me, the song captures a longing for something more and the difficulty in finding that ‘more’ in a… Read More

Learning to Love Before getting married, I had never heard of Gary Chapman’s book, The 5 Love Languages. Marriage does not come with a manual, but if it did, the concepts within the book could cover off a few chapters. For those not familiar with it, the premise of the book is that there are five primary ways in which we ‘speak’ and receive love. They are: Acts of Service, Quality Time,… Read More

Gone Fishing Last summer, my son asked me if I could take him fishing down at the river near where we live.  He had done this a few times with my father-in-law, but this was the first time I got to take him.  I was thrilled that he asked me.  Spending one on one time with my kids is something I really enjoy, understand the importance of, and do not do enough… Read More